Handling The Behaviors of Grief in Your Children

Are you seeing behaviors in your children that you haven't before?  Oftentimes these can be the result of grief.  Yes, even years after being home children can experience grief from their earliest of loss (of their birthmother).  You can help your child by being there with them to listen & support.  Don't say that you know how they feel ... you don't.  Don't say that you're there to help fix their feelings ... this implies that they have a problem.  As children grow, their thoughts of their early beginnings change ... they need to know that they're ok.  Their wonderment, anger, thoughts, & feelings are ok & a normal part of the grief process.  Be there ...

Adoption v. Personality

Adoption pre-disposes children to experiences that impact their make up.  What adoptive parents do with that info, & how they react has much to do with enhancing their personality.

Lead by example

Children are like sponges, they take everything in.  If you want your child(ren) to behave in a certain way, you need to model that behavior for them.  Lead by example.  They can learn to follow your example.  It takes a little extra time, but it's well worth the outcome!